My Rules in Making My Husband Happy

I knew my husband as someone who pursues photography with so much passion and happiness. It is actually what consumed him every weekend.

He started out with only one SLR (Single Lens Reflex) camera until he invested in having a huge vintage studio camera that uses film.

His collections of photos are mostly macro shots of flowers and landscapes of the city. But one night, he asked me if he could try some captures using a model. Out of my support to him, I said yes. After a few thought though, I realised he means 'me' as a dummy. Nevertheless, I agreed without hesitation, remembering some of my

RULES IN MAKING MY HUSBAND HAPPY

Rule #1 Accompany him in doing the things he love - his hobbies.

So, we set a photography night at the East Bay Garden overlooking the iconic CBD skyline. We spent hours manipulating his camera. At first, he just focused on capturing the cityscape while I sat at the huge rock behind him.

After he grew tired of the scenery, he diverted his attention to me. And as agreed, I played the model to the best of my ability.

From time to time, he was checking the outcome of the shots. Howbeit, he kept on unjustly criticising his work which made me annoyed. But remembering

Rule #2 Do not nag.

I made sure to keep my composure.

As I reviewed his captures, I realised that most of the inaccuracies was due to me as a poser and not most because of his technical skills. Although some of his framing was not perfect, I tried to point out how the series of shots progress into almost perfect. Besides, I believe he can improve more the next time he’ll try. Furthermore, I convinced him of what is more important, and that is to not only seize his passion but to also continuously grow on it.

The next weekend, we met my sister for lunch. I enthusiastically showed to her the photos we took at the garden. She was obviously delighted and she identified all the pieces she thought was nice to display. Of course, I can’t help not to tell her how much effort and attention my husband did to produce all the good shots. He was actually very patient and detailed. That very moment, I knew I have to commend and boost his ego because of

Rule #4 Lift him up in front of others.

One day, I decided to print out the chosen photos. I artfully displayed it on our bedroom wall to

Rule #5 Do something unexpected.

He was surprised how much I adored his snaps. I can see that he was somehow proud of his work. Ultimately,

Rule #6 Respect him.

To date, he is still fond of taking photographs. Out of my regard to him, I sometimes see to it that I accompany him in this activity, even if that means I will only assist him with his heavy equipments. That I knew, was my way of letting him know that I value what he loves to do.